Bro. Todd had some funny slides on power point yesterday morning.  When the really funny one came up we all laughed.  I heard Ed laughing next to me and I turned and caught his eye.  Everyone does that, you hear something funny and you turn and look at someone so you can share it.  It doesn't really matter who it is.  You say with your eyes, isn't that funny, and the other person says, yes, isn't it nice to laugh?

But I don't think we do the same thing with sad moments or things that touch us in a deep place.  We keep those moments to ourselves, eyes straight ahead, no turning to look for understanding in another person's eyes.  It's as if we're ashamed or embarrassed to feel sadness or loss or empathy.  We endure it - alone.